Living with Erectile Dysfunction

He suffers from Anxiety and ED now because of the meds that he takes. But without the meds, you can’t live with him.
Well, he’s had the ED problem going on 7 yrs now and because I love him, I’ve stopped asking for anything from him and only being there to recieve, when he is ready. Most of the time we try, but it goes away.

Anyway, I’m very highly sexual and I’ve given all that I have up for him, by not asking anymore. After 6 months or more, I can’t stand it anymore, so I get ill about it.

His dr. gave him meds to help him with that, but he’s so scared he’ll die, or go blind, he won’t take it.

Now after almost 7 yrs, I’ve had all I can stand. I just turned 40 and I feel that I’ve missed out on a lot sexually, because of his selfishness and being peranoid ! I want him to either fix it, or I’m gone. 7 yrs is way more than most women would give to a man that doesn’t care about what she needs as well. I think it should be 50-50, but it’s 99.9 (him) getting and my .1 % getting and my 99.9 giving and his .1 giving. I can’t give up anything more, because there’s nothing left to give up ! I don’t want to die old and had my last sexual experience to be back when I was in my early 30’s ! I have needs too and he needs to step up and do his part !

ED has just ruined what used to be a very happy marriage.

I don’t ask for material things, just to be with him, like we should be and to feel loved, wanted and desired again. I’ve not had that in years and it’s not fair to me.

They speak of ED causing the man to have low self esteem? What about the woman? It doesn’t do a whole lot for her self-esteem, now does it?