Living with Teen Pregnancy

Well,to start off my name is Brilina. I am 14 years old.My boyfriend is 16.We are currently in a long distance relationship.We are both currently virgins,simply for the fact that we are waiting for each other.So, heres my story.To start things off I am thinking about having a baby at this age,and to make matters even more difficult,i’m in a long distance relationship.

I am not being pressured in any way to have sex with my boyfriend of a year and four months.What my boyfriend wants is to have sex,but not only having sex,but also conceiving a baby,he would prefer a boy,but i’m pulling for a little baby girl.Well,I absolutely am for one truely blessed to have such a loving boyfriend who would want to start a family with me,and therefore spend the rest of his life with me,and second of all,totally be there for me whatever decision I make regarding sex and possibly having a baby.

I for one only have four reservations about having this baby with my boyfriend.

1. Telling my parents.My mom was a teen parent,but that doesn’t mean that she understands or would accept me getting pregnant,she would probably would threaten for me to have an abortion,which is completely not an option!And I do not live with my dad,and we are not very close because he lives in Kentucky,and I live in Texas,but we were close when I was little and lived in Kentucky,just having no former experience with any conversation involving any “female” things,let alone sex, it would just be very wierd telling him that I am having a baby!Right?I just fear I would dissapoint both sides of my family,which would be very hard considering both sides of my family have very high hopes for me,and those hopes do not involve having a baby.
2. MONEY!Now,that word should just scare anybody away from having a baby,especially now,with everything so high.My mother has to support five children,and I don’t want to be the reason for some more stress on her because I bring another member into the family,and she is also currently unemployed,and is married to a soldier who is currently in the army.And my boyfriend has a regular teenage job,working at a Taco Bell in Oklahoma,and I know he would totally give me his whole paycheck happily every two weeks,and for me,well I am fourteen,and work is very hard to find at my age.
3. Discrimenation.Being that I am a ninth grader,and having my peers already judge me on who I am now,adding a baby would only worsen the matter,I would have my peers,friends,my friends’ parents,my parents,my relatives,teachers,even people I don’t even know,judge me,because I WANT to be a MOTHER at 14!
4. My long distance relationship. Well,me having my boyfriend is not an issue because I know he will be with me through the rough times as well as the good times,and supports me 100 percent whatever I decide to do,and he will give up anything for me and our potential baby if he needed to.Being that my boyfriend wants me to have this baby as a reminder of him when he can’t be with me,is very sweet.But there is way more to it.That means that not only do I have to do everything by myself,he will miss absolutely EVERYTHING,the most precious moments of a growing baby,and that just breaks my heart that he wouldn’t be able to be there physically for our baby.And I don’t know if I could take care of a baby all by myself.Because I don’t want my mom to have to help,she already has enough stress on her as it is.

Well,this all just comes down to the fact that I am a responsible teenager who is very willing to have this baby,and am willing to give up whatever I have to so that I can have a happy healthy baby,and I am willing to sacrifice whatever I have to.And that I really want to be a younger mother so that I can be there for my baby for as long as I possibly can,and be able to play with my baby with no fears of breaking my back or something like that.But I don’t know if I am completely in over my head.

If you could,I would really like to hear from you teen parents,so I can have advice from someone who’s been through it,and I would also like to hear from non pregnant teenagers so that I could hear it from another point of view,and even older adults who have more knowledge than me,so that I could have a completely non biased opinion.

Please help me,if you can find it in your hearts and understand the situation I am in.Thank you,and I truely appreciate it if you respond to my story.Bye for now.