Living with Teen Pregnancy

“Oh my god…I’m pregnant.”Those were the first words that came out of my mouth as soon as I read the little pregnancy test from CVS.

At 18, with my boyfriend of almost 3 years, I was already pregnant. All at once I was wracked with worry, sadness, happiness, and above all else, I was scared. Will I be a good mother? How can we pay for all this?? What will my parents say? What will his parents say? What will we do?? My head was spinning. At the time I was working at Dunkin’ Donuts.Currently my boyfriend is unemployed, but has an interview for a really good job which I know he is able to get easily. So, needless to say I’m not really worried.

When I told my boyfriend he was practically jumping for joy. He was so happy. We had planned on getting married before having a baby, but life doesn’t always happen that way right? He was hugging and kissing me and all I did was stand there and almost start crying. Not because I was happy, but because I didn’t think I was ready, or good enough to become a mother.

When time came to tell my mother, it happened by accident. She found my depression medication (Depakote will give the baby a neural tube deffect like spina bifida so I stopped taking the dosage I was prescribed by my doctor and took more of the Folic acid I had.) That was practically a full bottle. Tom and I were at his dad’s house. That day I told my mother who blatantly asked me if I was “retarded” and insisted on pink slipping me (sending someone to a psychiatric hospital against their will…which can be done.) if I didn’t get an abortion. I told her that I wasn’t going to get an abortion and she said to me, “If I knew medically what I know now, I would have done it.” Saying, she would have aborted me if she knew I was going to be born when she was 17. She never knew she was pregnant with me. So needless to say my mother said if I really am pregnant, I could not come home. So my boyfriend’s mom and stepdad were nice enough to let me stay with them.

My grandmother on the other hand (My mother lives with my grandmother) is very happy and wants to be in the baby’s life. She told me that, thru tears, my mother shouldn’t be the one to judge when she had me at 17 and she told me “Noone ever did this to her….we all helped her out…I just don’t understand.”

His mom is happy and excited about the baby,but at first she was a little disapointed. Out of her 4 kids, This is her first grandchild and my boyfriend is the baby of the family. Well, you can see why shes happy.

When we went to the doctor’s to find out if I really was pregnant or not The nurse practicioner said to me as she held the doppler in her hand “Now you don’t always hear it, so don’t be upset if we don’t hear anything.” As soon as she put the goo on me and put the doppler on my belly, We heard the fast lub-dub of a baby heartbeat! My boyfriend had a HUGE grin on his face and looked at me. I whispered I love you to him as the nurse told us we were in fact pregnant. 10 weeks and 1 day. Hearing that heartbeat made me cry. It was just so amazing!

When we had the ultra sound a couple weeks later at 12 weeks and 2 days we got to see it hop and move. Since that day seeing our baby for the first time, I knew I was ready to be a mom.

Currently I am 16 weeks pregnant today and my Due date is September 1st 2009. My boyfriend and I are very happy to become parents. We really want a boy, but if we have a girl we will be happy too. He takes me to all my appointments and helps me do things I can’t do while I’m pregnant. He takes very good care of me. I really have to say I think this is the best thing that ever happened to us and my boyfriend agrees.